It is not wrong to say that the debt of the heart, that is, the magnitude of psychological damage. In other words, psychological damage varies greatly depending on the degree and duration of the damage. Therefore, it is only natural that the way to rebuild one’s life also varies greatly from person to person.
If the period of mental damage caused by bullying, power harassment, sexual harassment, moral harassment, etc. in the past is short and mild, it will not be difficult to rebuild one’s spirit. However, if the mental damage is sustained for a long period of time, or if it is constant, it will be extremely difficult to regain one’s spirit.
Therefore, it goes without saying that PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) like the former and C-PTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) like the latter are very different from each other even though they are the same post-traumatic stress disorder.
If you say, “Debt of the heart would be the same,” I hear you, but is the method of restructuring the same for a company with 1 million U.S. dollars in debt and a company with 1 billion U.S. dollars in debt? I don’t think so. If it is the former, recovery will be quick, but if it is the latter, recovery will not progress at all in the same way. This is neither strange nor special, but quite natural. Even for companies that are in debt, the means of restructuring differ depending on the amount of debt and the factors that led to the debt.
The same can be said for mental debt. If the debt is mild, it is possible to recover with some mental health care, but if the debt is severe, it is difficult or impossible to recover without extensive mental health care.
Many people often say things like “start from scratch,” but I can only conclude that they do not understand the feelings of the other person at all. We can’t pretend that mental debt doesn’t exist. Therefore, we should be aware of the fact that we will start from the negative of the size of the debt. Only after all of these debts have been paid off can we get to the position of zero.
Those who say that it is still different even after this explanation are still thinking that “100 U.S. dollars for a day’s work is the same as 100 U.S. dollars for a year’s work”. Upon hearing this, those in question will protest that this is not true, but what they argue against is not reasonable and absolutely unacceptable.
This is not a matter of “thinking” or “feeling” in a naïve and naïve way. It is not too much to assert, but rather too little to say. This is “the fact”, “the reality” and “the truth”. It’s not a matter of good or bad, it’s nothing more than a golden rule that can’t be described in any other way and has absolutely no room for doubt.